Thursday, 24 December 2015

Life: Getting Engaged

R got engaged and she's explained why.

Last week my wonderful Favourite asked me to marry him. After I checked he was being serious, cried a lot and recovered from the blinding sparkle of the diamond studded sapphire engagement ring, I said a joyful YES. It was the easiest question I've ever been asked. 

We've been together for four and a half years and we've come so far in that time. When we met I was a wide eyed Journalism student in Liverpool, discovering how much I like to drink rum and dance to Motown in Heebie Jeebies, while he was an aimless punk, managing bars in Liverpool and wondering (without much deliberation) what came next after university. We've come a really long way and by always looking in the same direction and sharing a focus we've become a solid team - challenging each other and pushing each other to succeed.

Four years later and we've moved to London, he's a Management Accountant and I'm busy doing everything at once but namely being a senior marketer by day and a fashion entrepreneur by night. It has felt like the right time to get married for a while but my Favourite had a few things he wanted to have clear before he asked, and while a little impatient, I of course respected that.

We're not getting married to please our families, to throw a big party, to 'make it official' or to add some excitement to a long relationship. We're getting married because we want to make a big, bold and brave decision to promise to be with each other for the rest of our lives. We want to stand up, in front of all the people who love us and ask them to support us on this next chapter of our lives. We want to move against the culture of divorce and infidelity and commit to honouring each other and prioritising our relationship above all else. 

I've had a few comments along the lines of why are you getting married so young, or why are you getting married at all. The answer is simple; it changes things. And if you don't think it does then I'm afraid we're going to disagree. 

Since being engaged I've already felt a shift. Every last detail, comment or long forgotten cousin matters more because it's not a case of mine or his family anymore, it's our family. The simple saying of 'what's mine is yours' has tremendous impact if you really live it out. 

I am so ready to be his wife that I want to get married next week, realistically it will take a little longer, but stay tuned for all things dress, cake, ring and of course, plenty of incredibly sappy musings. 

R x

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